Hey lady. I understand you not ever getting angry with God because I’ve never gotten angry with God for taking Kerri and Hunter. Sometimes I think it would be easier on me if I did because it might take away some of the pain. Then I tell myself it isn’t God’s fault, it was there plan/life from the beginning and where they’re at now, Heaven, is so much a better place then here. No more pain or tears.
Perfect! Saturdays are great for me, too…actually probably the best…but I can adjust!🤗
And yes!!! Actually my daughter in law delivered on the 26th of June…about 3 weeks early, but Wesley is doing well! His parents are tired!!!! I’ve been able to spend lots of time with him while they try to get some rest! They are over the moon but are still in the phase where they think one of them has to be awake staring at him 24/7!😂 Thank you for asking…actually remembering is quite impressive, let alone asking. They named him after Cullen…Cullen was Wesley Cullen and we called him Cullen …they named their baby Wesley James and they are calling him Wesley. It makes me tear up every time I think of it…I am so pleased they settled on that name. I found a picture just the other day…you remember in the dinosaur age when we had black and white photos…of Cullen holding Philip, Wesley’s dad. I plan to frame it and give it to them so Wesley will always remember his uncle for whom he was named. Philip at that time was less than a year old and Cullen was 10…memories….when they are all you have, they become pretty important.
The book by Claypool is excellent…years ago (41) after Russell’s death, I read it and it, was one of very few books that spoke specifically to child loss. I still recall his mentioning the washing machine that was given to his family when he was growing up, and his disappointment when it was taken away. His mother’s wise words were along the lines of “it was a gift; it was never really ours.”. I think all of us who have lost children have learned or are learning to hold people and things more loosely, to recognize them as gifts, even gifts we don’t deserve, but that are given to us for a time by a good, all wise, all knowing heavenly Father.
So glad you and W3 have the opportunity to spend time together. A “Fellow Struggler” is a great asset to have as you can process your grief both individually and together. Another resource I highly recommend is Tim Challies’ most recent book….I think it is called “Seasons of Sorrow”…but if you google Challies, you can find it. It is about the sudden loss of his 23 year old son. It is excellent, and I have read it and recommended it to several people who have lost children…as a matter of fact, I gave my copy to another mom.
Hi Susan, yes his insight into expectation was excellent. I wanted to write more about the book but I was so tired and I'm glad you helped fill in a little more. I will look up Tim Challies book now as well, so thank you. Sending hugs back. Would you ever be interested in joining us or we can make a field trip down your way I bet!
I’d love to join the two of you…or even meet halfway if that would be a possibility! Mondays and Tuesdays are not typically great days for me to get away, but I can arrange my schedule a little more easily toward the end of the week. I’ll be out of town toward the end of July but would love to plan something in August!❤️
We have always met on Saturdays but our schedules are getting a little busy on our bi-weekly Saturdays coming up so we have to figure it out. I'll get in touch with you through email at some point in August. I hope you have safe and fun travels. Did your youngest become a dad yet?
While I still adjust to my new life, I think a lot of the busyness and distraction of my old life. A few times recently, including in church and in this morning's devotion, I have been reminded of Luke 10:42 and the importance of making God the focus. I think part of that is also what you just said, making sure we show value to those in our lives by giving them appropriate focus - which can be hard to do when we get caught up in busyness. Have a blessed day. I need to figure out how to show value to someone in my life because I utterly failed last night.
God always provides for our needs, which he continually says he will. I spent way too much energy on the wants, the temporary things and not the eternal things, which often just made me irritable. Now that I'm well into menopause and those hormones aren't wreaking havoc, I can look back clearly, and say that I really felt different a lot of the time. I was a Christian who indeed felt close to God, but was tangled up and I didn't even realize it.
Very hot in Heber Valley, 5,500 ft above sea level. 99 degrees today! Gratefully, our nights cool way down. Last nights low was 46! Very dry air with no humidity. Today was KSK,s birthday! You probably never knew of that! Thinking of you always.
From this ET reader the weather is fine. Alabama gets hot too. It’s summer in the south. As our closing prayer was happening this morning, thundered boomed and the rain came. It was glorious. The temp dropped to 77. Glorious day here. Praying still my friend. We meet them as well. Radiation and chemo coming soon for my husband. Scares me so. Reading The School of Christ helps.
Hey lady. I understand you not ever getting angry with God because I’ve never gotten angry with God for taking Kerri and Hunter. Sometimes I think it would be easier on me if I did because it might take away some of the pain. Then I tell myself it isn’t God’s fault, it was there plan/life from the beginning and where they’re at now, Heaven, is so much a better place then here. No more pain or tears.
Thank you!
Perfect! Saturdays are great for me, too…actually probably the best…but I can adjust!🤗
And yes!!! Actually my daughter in law delivered on the 26th of June…about 3 weeks early, but Wesley is doing well! His parents are tired!!!! I’ve been able to spend lots of time with him while they try to get some rest! They are over the moon but are still in the phase where they think one of them has to be awake staring at him 24/7!😂 Thank you for asking…actually remembering is quite impressive, let alone asking. They named him after Cullen…Cullen was Wesley Cullen and we called him Cullen …they named their baby Wesley James and they are calling him Wesley. It makes me tear up every time I think of it…I am so pleased they settled on that name. I found a picture just the other day…you remember in the dinosaur age when we had black and white photos…of Cullen holding Philip, Wesley’s dad. I plan to frame it and give it to them so Wesley will always remember his uncle for whom he was named. Philip at that time was less than a year old and Cullen was 10…memories….when they are all you have, they become pretty important.
Very happy for you and want to see that picture when we meet up. I'll be in touch!
The book by Claypool is excellent…years ago (41) after Russell’s death, I read it and it, was one of very few books that spoke specifically to child loss. I still recall his mentioning the washing machine that was given to his family when he was growing up, and his disappointment when it was taken away. His mother’s wise words were along the lines of “it was a gift; it was never really ours.”. I think all of us who have lost children have learned or are learning to hold people and things more loosely, to recognize them as gifts, even gifts we don’t deserve, but that are given to us for a time by a good, all wise, all knowing heavenly Father.
So glad you and W3 have the opportunity to spend time together. A “Fellow Struggler” is a great asset to have as you can process your grief both individually and together. Another resource I highly recommend is Tim Challies’ most recent book….I think it is called “Seasons of Sorrow”…but if you google Challies, you can find it. It is about the sudden loss of his 23 year old son. It is excellent, and I have read it and recommended it to several people who have lost children…as a matter of fact, I gave my copy to another mom.
Sending hugs and love to
you and W3.
Hi Susan, yes his insight into expectation was excellent. I wanted to write more about the book but I was so tired and I'm glad you helped fill in a little more. I will look up Tim Challies book now as well, so thank you. Sending hugs back. Would you ever be interested in joining us or we can make a field trip down your way I bet!
I’d love to join the two of you…or even meet halfway if that would be a possibility! Mondays and Tuesdays are not typically great days for me to get away, but I can arrange my schedule a little more easily toward the end of the week. I’ll be out of town toward the end of July but would love to plan something in August!❤️
We have always met on Saturdays but our schedules are getting a little busy on our bi-weekly Saturdays coming up so we have to figure it out. I'll get in touch with you through email at some point in August. I hope you have safe and fun travels. Did your youngest become a dad yet?
While I still adjust to my new life, I think a lot of the busyness and distraction of my old life. A few times recently, including in church and in this morning's devotion, I have been reminded of Luke 10:42 and the importance of making God the focus. I think part of that is also what you just said, making sure we show value to those in our lives by giving them appropriate focus - which can be hard to do when we get caught up in busyness. Have a blessed day. I need to figure out how to show value to someone in my life because I utterly failed last night.
God always provides for our needs, which he continually says he will. I spent way too much energy on the wants, the temporary things and not the eternal things, which often just made me irritable. Now that I'm well into menopause and those hormones aren't wreaking havoc, I can look back clearly, and say that I really felt different a lot of the time. I was a Christian who indeed felt close to God, but was tangled up and I didn't even realize it.
Very hot in Heber Valley, 5,500 ft above sea level. 99 degrees today! Gratefully, our nights cool way down. Last nights low was 46! Very dry air with no humidity. Today was KSK,s birthday! You probably never knew of that! Thinking of you always.
Pretty shocking it can get that hot that high up. I knew it was his birthday and sent him an email.
Thunder not thundered.
From this ET reader the weather is fine. Alabama gets hot too. It’s summer in the south. As our closing prayer was happening this morning, thundered boomed and the rain came. It was glorious. The temp dropped to 77. Glorious day here. Praying still my friend. We meet them as well. Radiation and chemo coming soon for my husband. Scares me so. Reading The School of Christ helps.
I'm continuing to pray for you and your hubby, and it is scary.